There are so many things that we actually need to strenghten out before we conclude on going out for dates, its one thing to go out with your lover and its another to go out with a friend.
Any of us possesses the nature of a social being. We need people to interact with, talk to, laugh along, argue with, love and be loved. Therefore dating is so popular.
There are several kinds of dating. Going out with a specific person or in groups to enjoy each others company is considered dating. We may go out to movies, sports activities, parks, or merely lazing around in the house. There are prepared dates and spontaneous dates. There are also dates that are satisfying and others becoming not so cool in the end. In short, dating is a social activity where a person has the opportunity to grow in the presence of another.
Being in a company is one opportunity to know a person or persons at a deeper level. Meeting them two or more times may develop the interest and the natural bond. Some end up becoming good friends for a lifetime, others mere acquaintances for some time and others end up having romantic relationships.
In this dating phenomenon, when can we identify if it is just a friendly date or a romantic date?
The following facts may help determine which is which:
1. Friendly date
=The level of interest and curiosity is on the general activities of the person. For example, =families, hobbies, skills, talents, and favourites
=Both parties are not self-conscious of how they look and behave
=They can talk anything and about everything without feeling awkward on how the other party will respond
=A friend can easily say no to a date if he or she does not want to go
=Setting or location does not necessarily have to be fancy
=There are no sparks or chemistry going on and it is just a fun of being together
=No effort of setting the best foot forward to prove that you can be likeable
=No physical attraction present
=No expectations of becoming girlfriend or boyfriend
2. Romantic date
=There is an added pressure to look good on a date
=Compromising what you really want over the desires of the person you asked to go out with
=Not able to say no to the person you like especially when he or she asked you out
Has become more concerned with personal issues (example: daily activities, whom they get to spend time with, etc.)
=You give your full attention and focus to what he or she says
=You make extra effort to get a fancy place and set up a romantic tone
=There is physical attraction
=You think about him or her over and over again once you get home
There is not so much importance why one needs to be conscious whether he or she went out for a friendly date or a romantic one. The only concern though would be for both parties to be aware of any intentions or expectations that may potentially arise later on. At least both will have a clear cut understanding of their social status in their so-called budding relationship. Identifying which is which will spare them from getting confused whether they are only friends or are indeed romantically attracted to each other.
DO YOU ENCOUNTER PROBLEMS IN YOUR DATES?
Nobody is perfect. We are all flawed in some way or another and that includes you, as well. If you expect the woman to be absolutely perfect and demand that, you will always be disappointed. Demanding perfectionism in your work is one thing. Demanding perfectionism from a friend, co-worker or a lady you are interested in is not just fine. It won't happen. Expect flaws and just deal with them.
Little white lies and false fronts won't work. Be honest from the beginning of a relationship. Write your profile. Make it interesting but don't make false statements. The truth will come out eventually anyway.
If you say you are a lawyer who makes a million bucks a year and you are really an electrician that makes $75,000, you have set yourself up for failure.
Establishing eye contact with your date will let him know that you are listening. Although you're not interested in his babbling, just look straight at him.
You'll know when would be the right time to talk. Tell him things about your wonderful self. Make your stories long. If it seems that he's not listening, maybe he is not really interested in you. Most men do not like silent girls.
Sometimes, it's not a bad idea to make the first move. If you feel that your date is too shy, make the first move. It may help him step up then take over from there. Don't be scared to take risks and turn it into opportunities!
Sometimes, most men can't read signs. They might just be inexperienced or simply stupid. On the other hand, maybe they're both.
Start contacting ladies whose profiles sound interesting to you and answer any lady who contacts you and do so promptly. You don't want to appear that desperate.
Don't give up after a month and think you will never find the right lady. New people join online dating services daily and at least half of them are ladies many, of whom, will want to meet you
So brase up for the best, cause you can achieve all you want.
